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We often get our primary support in intimate relationships. I am a non-Black Latina partnered with a Black woman. The night Michael Brown was murdered by Darren Wilson in Ferguson, my partner was glued to her Twitter account, raising her voice about the injustice, conversing with other black people, and poring over the news.
At the time, she and I had an ongoing conflict about her Twitter addiction. Late into the evening, when I saw that she was still on Twitter, I became annoyed and asked when she was going to get offline.
After some disagreement, she burst into tears. She expressed deep upset at my lack of consideration for her need to be in connection with other Black people at that moment. I was centering my feelings over her very real experiences of oppression , adding to her distress and denying her the support she needed at such an enraging and painful time.
Non-black POC in relationships with Black people have a responsibility to figure out the best way to act in solidarity with our partners and friends. This is not a comprehensive list, but are some basic actions that non-Black POC can take to be in solidarity with our Black partners and friends; not just for the struggle, but for the health and well-being of the people we love.
CarmenLeah Ascencio a public health social worker, community theatre facilitator, trauma-sensitive yoga instructor, educator and proud Boricua 2 nd generation queer femme.
To find out about booking CarmenLeah, go here. Do not republish anything from this site without expressed written permission from BGD. BGD is a reader-funded non-profit. When shit is going down and your partner or friend is hurting because of things like police brutality against Black people, ask what you can do for them.
As much as I wanted to comfort her, she expressed the need to have that kind of experience with other Black people. Of course. Give time and space. Know that your partner or friend may need their own time and space with other Black folks without you, especially when it comes to discussing the oppression Black people face but not only then.
Make sure to be supportive and understanding of this. Engage from a place of not knowing. As enraging as police brutality against Black people is to me, I do not experience this rage the same way my partner does.
I cannot, because I have no idea what it is like to be Black. As their partner and primary support, or their close friend, you should never be someone they experience frustration with when speaking about their experience as a Black person. If you do activist work together, step back if the issue pertains to anti-black oppression. Ask how you can play a supportive role and check in to make sure any actions you take independently are helpful to them.
Remember, you still benefit from anti-blackness. Even though you love your partner or friend, you still benefit from and are complicit in anti-blackness. Take action to push back against the privilege you have because of this.
For example, maybe you want your partner to come to your majority white or non-black POC work party, social gathering or family event, but they feel uncomfortable in a setting without any other Black people, especially right now. Yes, you can be with a Black person and have Black friends and still hold anti-black ideas. You may also like. The BGD Podcast 3. White-ish Christmas. The BGD Podcast
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We often get our primary support in intimate relationships. I am a non-Black Latina partnered with a Black woman. The night Michael Brown was murdered by Darren Wilson in Ferguson, my partner was glued to her Twitter account, raising her voice about the injustice, conversing with other black people, and poring over the news. At the time, she and I had an ongoing conflict about her Twitter addiction. Late into the evening, when I saw that she was still on Twitter, I became annoyed and asked when she was going to get offline.
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